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If we or someone else we know is experiencing depression, anxiety, low self-esteem or other mental health challenges the church is here for you.  We’re not experts but we do want to be a place that is open and supportive.  This blog is here to help us consider these things from a Christian perspective. 
  
You’ll find it helpful to read the story of Elijah from 1 Kings 19.1-9. Notice the following:

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Elijah the great prophet talks of being very down and a great failure (v4).  Many church leaders like Charles Spurgeon and John Bunyan had depression.  It isn’t because God doesn’t love you, or you haven’t got enough faith.  It’s the result of living in a fallen world where everything: our emotions, minds, upbringings, chemical levels, bodies, and souls are fallen and broken.  We shouldn't add to our pain by condemning ourselves because God doesn’t (Romans 8.1).  We need to be understanding and patient with each other (Ephesians 4.2).  

It's good if treatment can be be “holistic” (that is, considering the whole of a person).

The angel of the Lord responds to Elijah with:

  • Company and care (v5) - putting a hand on his shoulder and watching over him.  Part of Elijah’s issues are that he’s in the desert, he’s lonely, and he thinks he’s the only one left.  He needs company.  We need to keep getting out to see people even if we feel we don’t want to and even if we think we might perhaps drag them down.  “It is not good for man to be alone” for we get eaten up by our own thoughts and sadness.  So if at all possible it's good to try to keep up our usual rhythms of church meetings, and even come more.  Early Christians met daily and surely that helped them. 
  • Food and sleep (v6-7).  The angel cooks up a meal and then allows Elijah to sleep.  Elijah is in modern terms “not looking after himself” and is “emotionally worn out.”  If you are not eating and sleeping well, not exercising, or getting any fresh air – this affects your mental state.  
  • God’s word (v9b).  After all this practical care the angel sees to Elijah’s spiritual issues.  We’re right to seek prayer and support from Christians.  We hope our small groups are places we can talk about these things.  We need prayer.  And we need is to listen less to our feelings and let God tell us what is true (Jeremiah 17.9, Psalm 43.5, Philippians 4.8, 1 John 3.20, 1 John 3.1-2).  
  • Command.  Finally the angel says get up and get on with what God has told Elijah to do (v15).  Though we need sympathy and care and patience it can be easy to curl up in a ball and turn in on ourselves.  Sometime we need to allow someone to tell to push through and to focus on others.    

Years before we had medical terms like depression God knew how to treat us as the whole people (Psalm 103.14, John 10.14).  Could you work through the above with a good friend and consider whether have any particular relevance to you? 

We also need to be open to seeking help from a qualified medical practitioner if our symptoms are clinical and need this level of help. Under God's hand, and through his common grace, this help is available to us, and it does not represent a failure of our faith to seek it.  But only the gospel can finally and fully heal our hearts. 

Some Christians may suffer with mental health all their lives.  For some it will only be in the new creation that our darkness lifts fully.  But here are ways in which the news of Jesus speaks to us - 

  • Jesus is with us (Matt 28.20) That’s his promise and he does not lie.   
  • God loves us to the skies (Psalm 36.5)
  • God justifies us (Romans 8.33), so don’t ever have to prove ourselves to him.  In our darkest valley we’re just as loved as when we were on the mountain tops
  • God has given you every spiritual blessing.  Read Ephesians 1 and list them. Try to thank God out loud for these. 
  • God values us greatly (1 Peter 1.18).  And since he’s God he get’s to decide what is valuable and precious.  
  • Jesus defines our life and future, not our state of mind (1 John 3.1-3)
  • God has good things for you to do each day planned by him (Ephesians 2.10)
  • You are indispensable to the body of the church even when you feel weak (1 Corinthians 12.22)
  • God is bigger than all that assails you and will one day bring peace

If you would value talking about these things please get in touch.  For a book on depression I recommend
Depression: Looking up from the stubborn darkness by Edward T Welch. (amazon.co.uk) which I am happy to lend you. 

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Barnaby, 16/11/2023
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Barnaby 4 Hello, my name is Barnaby, and I am the Pastor here at Lancing Tab. The aim of this website is just to give you a flavour of who we are and what we're about as a church.
 

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We’re a church for the whole community in and around Lancing. Come as you are whatever doubts and questions you have.

icon3 As a church family, we all face different challenges, but we believe the Bible’s message about Jesus’ love and rescue are what we most need.
 
icon2 We meet at our building on North Road (next to the Co-op) at 10.30am each Sunday. It’s free and informal with tea, coffee, and kids’ groups.
 
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Sat Nav Postcode BN15 9BB

Our address is:
105 North Road
Lancing
West Sussex
BN15 9BB

There is limited street parking around the Tab. A public car park in North Farm Road is a two-minute walk. The charges for the cark park are £1 on Sundays.

Accessibility: There is wheelchair access, and a sound loop for anyone who needs it. Please let one of the Welcome Team know on your arrival and they will help you to get set up. There are disabled toilets available.

 
 

Sundays...

 


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Our 10:30am service is simple and informal and normally runs for just over an hour. People wear anything from T-shirts to suits. You are welcome to bring kids of any age. 
 
We do the following:
  • Share news – because we’re a family.
  • Sing – because we love God.
  • Confess sin – because we don’t want to pretend, we’re anything but people in need of grace.
  • Look at the Bible – because that’s how we listen to God.
  • Pray – to ask God for his help.
  • We might have a baptism or take the Lord’s supper - to celebrate Jesus’ rescue.
  • We have coffee afterwards - to take real time together.


What about my kids?


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We love having the noise of lively children – so don’t worry!   They stay for the first 15 minutes of the service and then head to some excellent groups.  (Link to Itab) Creche (0-3), 4-10s group, and 11-15s group.   Older teens stay in the service.

Children stay with their parent or grown-up at the start of the service for the welcome, songs and notices. We really value worshipping God all together as a family. At the end of the notices someone will announce that it’s time for the younger members to go to their various groups. 

The kids group activities vary depending on the age but usually there is a friendly welcome, bible stories, testimonies, praying, music, craft, drama, fun games, and free play. Please pick your children up as soon as the service finishes.

If you want to get involved in the life of the church and help us make Sundays run smoothly, you can sign up to serve on a team. 
 
 
 

More than a Sunday...

 

While Sundays are a fantastic way to meet new people, it is often in smaller gatherings that you can really get to know someone. Being part of one of our pastoral groups allows you to make new friends, share together and support each other. We have a variety of groups that meet during the week, some daytime, and some evenings. 

 
kidslogo Kid’s club (£1 per child)
Reception to year 6
Wednesday 6-7pm, term time
Lots of fun. Bible stories. Hide and seek. Sports. Tuck shop!
 
Toddler Group Toddler group (£1 entry)
Wednesday 10-11.15am, term time.
Toys, craft, and songs. A chance for parents to meet and chat and have a cup of coffee.
 
Youth Youth group (£1 entry)
School years 7-11
Wednesday 7.30pm, term time.
Lots of fun. Opportunities to ask questions about the Christian faith. Games, trips to the beach, camping and much more!
 
senior Older people’s group
Tuesday fortnightly, 10.30am.
Hymns, prayer, Bible talk, coffee, and biscuits. A great place for friendship - all welcome.
 
coffee Cafe in the church
1st and 3rd Saturdays, 10am-12.
Free coffee and cake. Kids toys. A friendly space.
 
  
Have any questions? Feel free to send us a message via our contact page